Could you use some life advice? Submit a question to Sonima’s advice column “Dear John,” authored by Dr. John Rettger, a licensed clinical psychologist who owns a private practice in Palo Alto, CA. He combines his existential-humanistic and transpersonal treatment orientation with evidence-based treatments for trauma, anxiety, and depression in children, teens, and adults. He lives and teaches yoga and mindfulness in the San Francisco Bay Area. Through this column, we want to help readers address modern personal dilemmas with advice drawn from ancient wisdom traditions. No problem is too big or too small for consideration.